Shows 58 & 59 – Nonviolent Parenting: Respecting Ourselves, Respecting Our Kids

Shulamit Berlevtov joins Wendy McDonnell to discuss respect, cooperation, and Nonviolent Communication in families.

“What do you mean by respecting ourselves,” you ask? “I respect myself. The problem is that my kids don’t respect me! Aren’t kids were expected to revere parents? Do you mean that the kids do what we say, no matter what? Is it that the kids get away with murder? I.don’!”

In part 1, we explore the meaning of respect and connection in the context of two common challenges: trying to rush out the door when disaster strikes and when worried parents notice their adult children don’t want to get a job or move out on their own. Instead of spending our energy in power struggles, we explore why self-awareness is an important first step in creating wonderful relationships with our kids.

In part 2, we demonstrate a mindful way to build our capacity to express what matters most to us while he hear what our children want too. It is in this space that compromise is not necessary and cooperation can flourish!

It’s not fun for anyone to argue over who’s position is more right than the other. Instead, we explore how to express what each of us is looking for so that we may find a way to honour us all.

Listen to Part 1 Podcast

Listen to Part 2 Podcast

Aired live over two Sundays:

Part 1: Sunday, January 23, 2011

Part 2: Sunday, January 30, 2011

0800-0900 Eastern Standard Time on CFRU 93.3 FM, Guelph, Ontario, Canada

Helpful Tools and Articles

Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation by Sura Hart and Victoria Kindle Hodson

The No-Fault Zone

Needs in family-friendly language posted by Claralynn Nunamaker from

Hearing the “Yes” in the “No” , an article by Inbal Kashtan

Feelings List and Needs List from the Center for Nonviolent Communication


Nonviolence or avihimsá (equivalents: ahimsá, avihesá): harmlessness, nonviolence, absence of cruelty, to do no harm.

Respect: to look back at, regard, consider; to treat with deferential regard or esteem” is from the 1550s

Connect (verb): to establish a relationship (with) is from 1881; to awaken meaningful emotions, establish rapport is from 1942

Connection: to fasten together, to tie, join together

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