Just about every parent can attest to the challenge of being triggered by what our kids say and do. If being triggered by your kids is a struggle for you, you are not alone. Every parent I speak to has a story to share about this.
On Family Matters Radio, Kim, a single, working mom of an active, outgoing, outspoken 9 year old son joins me, Wendy McDonnell, to discuss just that.
Through listening and coaching, we focus on exploring the underlying needs that are speaking through the stories, observations, thoughts and feelings that I am so grateful that Kim was willing to share with us. Neither of us knew where this conversation was going to lead us.
However, by shedding some light on what’s important to Kim about her situation, she freed up energy and options that had been out of her reach up until then so that her needs and values were supported by concrete options. When I checked in with Kim a week after we recorded this show, she experienced noticeable positive shifts in her relationship with her son. At least a couple of times that week, both Kim and her son paused before they said something they’d regret later. Instead, they chose to take a time out to pause. After this cool down time, they shared how they felt, how things that were said and done impacted each other, and what they learned.
The strategies that came up may spark some ideas and inspire you to connect with and enjoy your relationships with your kids. That’s why I believe sharing our stories is so valuable for all parents.
Aired live: Sunday, December 4, 2011 0800-0900 Eastern Standard Time on CFRU 93.3 FM, Guelph, Ontario, Canada
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