Rachelle Lamb is a mother of two grown children, the president of Mindful Communication based in Victoria, BC, Canada and joins us on Family Matters Radio on the topic of Speak to me like you love me.
Rachelle says, “What if separation is embedded in the very words we speak? We are wired for care and compassion. What language do we speak?” Listen to this show about daring to live an authentic life with the ones we love.
Rachelle encourages parents to bear in mind:
- Do your best to remember what it was like to be a child first before you try to civilize your child.
- Some of your problems have nothing to do with communication. Questions like “How do I get my child to…?” indicate systemic challenges. Parents are often doing the work of a village feeling tired and frustrated and need help. Do your best to build community and self-compassion.
- Children respond very well to needs language. When they ask “why?” or say “no”, they likely want to understand the life and meaning in what we’re asking for.
Joseph Chilton Pearce wrote in The Biology of Transendence: A Blueprint of the Human Spirit, “All of us know intuitively that we are not by nature savage beasts. Fewer, however, are aware that we are driven to some fairly beastly behaviors by enculturation, despite the fact that the process itself is supposed to prevent this.”
Rachelle Lamb is the president of Mindful Communication based in Victoria, BC, Canada. She is the author and publisher of ‘Steps To Conscious Living’ and ‘Communication Basics: An Overview of Nonviolent Communication’. Rachelle’s interest in communication became a primary focus in 2000 when she met author and international peacemaker Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. She’s now a senior NVC trainer in Canada. You can find out more about Rachelle at www.rachellelamb.com.
Towards the end of the show, Rachelle Lamb spoke about the strength of vulnerability and I thought of Dr. Brené Brown’s TedxHouston video on the Power of Vulnerability. Enjoy!
This show aired live Sunday, March 20, 2011 0800-0900 Eastern Standard Time on CFRU 93.3 FM, Guelph, Ontario, Canada
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