Why are we afraid of conflict? Why should conflict happen? How can we do conflict well? On Family Matters Radio, Sharon Lewis and Wendy McDonnell explore when conflict is creative and when it gets messy.
Dr. John Gottman shows that conflict that damages relationships is characterized by four toxic dynamics: criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness. When viewed from the brain’s perspective, all of these responses help deflect our attention away from how vulnerable we feel. When we prime our thinking brain with curiosity and mindfulness, we have the power to unleash our creativity. Conflict can strengthen our relationships rather than pull us apart!
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Aired live Sunday, February 6, 2011 0800-0900 Eastern Standard Time on CFRU 93.3 FM, Guelph, Ontario, Canada
Sharon Lewis is a skilled Leadership and Team Effectiveness Coach, founder of Questiam Leadership Development, and Accredited Emotional Intelligence instructor.