Show 60 – Managing Conflict with Sharon Lewis

Why are we afraid of conflict? Why should conflict happen? How can we do conflict well? On Family Matters Radio, Sharon Lewis and Wendy McDonnell explore when conflict is creative and when it gets messy.

Dr. John Gottman shows that conflict that damages relationships is characterized by four toxic dynamics: criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness. When viewed from the brain’s perspective, all of these responses help deflect our attention away from how vulnerable we feel. When we prime our thinking brain with curiosity and mindfulness, we have the power to unleash our creativity. Conflict can strengthen our relationships rather than pull us apart!

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Aired live Sunday, February 6, 2011 0800-0900 Eastern Standard Time on CFRU 93.3 FM, Guelph, Ontario, Canada

Sharon Lewis is a skilled Leadership and Team Effectiveness Coach, founder of Questiam Leadership Development, and Accredited Emotional Intelligence instructor.

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  1. Marci says:

    Dear Wendy;
    as usual I have enjoyed listening to your show. As I’m sitting here I am noticing a lot of stuff moving around in my body. You always make things sound so easy to do, yet

    • It sounds easy to me too when I’m not experiencing painful conflict. Having an easy way to think of conflict is helpful to me because when I’m enraged and can’t think straight, it’s good to know I can rest assured that we will figure out what ‘s important to us all. The more I think of this, having the container to support these assumptions is key. Sometimes, we accidentally land on that and other times we create it intentionally.

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