This may seem like an overwhelmingly depressing story to tell leading up to the holiday season; but, it’s not. It’s a tale of love, hope, and practical ways to learn to live again after loss and tragedy.
Our topic today is Finding Jill: How I Rebuilt My Life after Losing the Five People I Loved Most with author Jill Kraft Thompson. She shares her heartfelt tale about loving again after unthinkable tragedy and loss to discover new love, new hope, and new life. She talks about stepping through your grief and how to support a friend or loved one who may be grieving during the holidays.
According to Jill, recovery and healing means living your life once again, waking up and starting your day, making sense of your thoughts, and feeling love and happiness again. Loss is always a part of you. It changes you. You learn to live with loss.
Listen to this inspiring story of how Jill Kraft Thompson found a way to find purpose, organize her life, and have a sense of time again through planning simple weekly engagements. She did this even when she was pretty sure she wasn’t going to be happy again but she decided to get on with life.
Grief is a very personal process. Some tools to help include: journalling, pictures, art, crafts, music, exercise, diet, rituals to honour loved ones, knowing your triggers, calling a friend or therapist, support groups, talking, reading, and listening, action plans. Above all, open your mind and heart to find the support you need.
- How does life stop to a certain degree after loss?
- How does one cope?
- How does loss and grief change a person?
- Who and what can help you to grieve?
- How can you live and fall in love again?
- What can you do when you feel the sting of loss at surprising moments?
- How do you support a friend or loved one who is grieving during the holidays?
For more information about grief, visit Jill’s website: www.FindingJill.com
Some more resources:
- a survival guide for introverted folks who may or may not be feeling unhappy this holiday: http://www.refugeingrief.com/2013/11/925/
- When Holidays Hurt: The Three C’s of Coping…Choice, Communicate & Compromise http://www.hospicecalgary.com/sites/default/files/pdf/When%20the%20Holidays%20Hurt.pdf
CREDO of the Bereaved
by John Kennedy Saynor
I believe grief is a process that involves a lot of time, energy, and determination.
“I won’t get over it in a hurry, so don’t rush me!”
I believe grief is intensely personal.
“This is my grief. Don’t tell me how I should be doing it. Don’t tell me what’s right or what’s wrong. I’m doing it my way, in my time.”
I believe grief is affecting me in many ways.
“I am being affected spiritually, physically, emotionally, socially, and mentally. I’m not my old self and some days even I don’t understand myself.”
I believe I will be affected in some degree by this loss for the rest of my life.
“As I get older, I will have new insights into what this death means to me. My loved one will continue to be part of my life and influence me until the day I die.”
I believe I am being changed by this process.
“I see life differently. Some things that were once important to me aren’t any more. There are some things I used to pay little or no attention to that are now important. I think a new me is emerging, so don’t be surprised and don’t stand in my way.”
CFRU will be playing Family Matters archives December 22nd and 29th and January 5th, 2014 while we enjoy time with our families and friends. I wish you a happy, joy-filled holiday.
If you relate to this story, may you have love and spaciousness to grieve in your own way.
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Broadcasted: Sunday December 15, 2013 1100-1200 Eastern Time on CFRU 93.3 FM, Guelph, Ontario, Canada
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