Our guest this morning is Margie Taylor who is a mom to two grown adults, a grandmother, and a local author. Her latest book is “60 is the New 20: a Boomer’s Guide to Aging with Grace, Dignity and What’s Left of Your Self-Respect”.
This particular topic is very popular with boomers and folks in their 50s and 60s: empty nesters, grandparents, and parents with older or adult children.
Writing your story and finding your voice is an important part of making sense of yourself, your relationships, and your world. According to Dr. Dan Siegel, author of “Parenting From The Inside Out” and “Mindsight” integration is the heart of well-being. Reflecting on our past, making sense of life including all our trials and suffering, promotes security, emotional regulation, flexibility, and improved intuition (that is, letting the wisdom of our bodies and minds influence our decisions). Self-awareness and acceptance could lead to self-compassion and compassionate honesty with our loved ones. These are important skills to develop when navigating the many needs and wants in families and relationships.
Writing our story and finding our voice is a way to do that.
Not only that, but each one of us has a story to tell, whether we write it ourselves or not.
Stories mark the passage of time and share our legacy.
Stories help us make sense of our lives.
Story telling requires that the story teller relax and listen to their unconscious for the story in them that portrays humanity in honest, kind, and interesting ways.
Stories begin with a character. Character leads to plot and plot is influenced by character. A story needs likable characters, a good plot, interesting action, and structure. Journalling, on the other hand, doesn’t require any of these.
Margie Taylor distinguishes telling your story and creative writing with journalling. Journalling may lead to story writing but generally it does not.
If you’re interested in reading some very good autobiographical stories, here’s a list to start:
John Mortimer’s “The Summer of a Dormouse” and “Clinging to the Wreckage”
Catherine Gildiner’s “Too Close to the Falls”
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