Here’s an article that I really like…“11 Things I Wish Every Parent Knew”
In a nutshell,
“1. Growth and development are not a race.
2. Creating family traditions encourages strong roots and a healthy life.
3. We grow in cycles.
4. Encouragement is not the same as indulgence.
5. Pushing your buttons is a spiritual practice, and children are our spiritual teachers.
6. A symptom is the body’s way of letting us know something has to change.
7. Be prepared.
8. Healing takes time.
9. The secret of life is letting go.
10. Trust yourself: You’re the expert on your child.
11. Take the long view. (Because it’s easy to get caught in the immediacy of a problem, especially at 2am.)”
What would you add to this list?
I would add “Conflict is necessary.”
I have a confession to make. I used to believe that if I said and did all the “right things” in the “right way” then we’d all live conflict-free. Isn’t THAT what peace IS?
Since having children, I’ve learned that conflict is necessary. Yes. Necessary.
Conflict signals that something important needs to change. The conflicting situation isn’t working for everyone and thank goodness someone has the courage to speak up, albeit in ways that are difficult to understand sometimes.
Dr. Gabor Maté has some wisdom to share about why conflict happens and how to effectively respond to it to keep our dignities intact and help our children to mature into healthy adults.
There are are fun ways to explore conflict too.
Hand-in-Hand Parenting offers up more strategies for connection and development, understanding why crying is important, and how conflict can help us develop patience and trust.
What do you think?
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