This is especially for you if:
- you want to leave with a sigh of relief, a feeling of being heard, and a concrete plan for transforming a challenge in your family life
- you’re a conscious parent creating your own flexible lifestyle and communication style
- you’re interested in developing your listening skills no matter how your kids or partner express themselves
- you’re interested in trusting your intuition and honestly expressing what’s in your heart with care for the ones you love
Yes? Then read on…
Maybe you’re longing to get your kids to bed, help them brush their teeth, get to school on time, do homework, pitch in around the house, wake up on time, get off the computer, come to dinner, stop arguing with each other, and have fun, … without all the bickering and fuss.
You’ve probably tried or experienced the “do it or else” method. It doesn’t feel right. Are you longing for heart-felt understanding and cooperation? Doubt that’s even possible?
Maybe your kids don’t live at home anymore and you want to be a part of each other’s lives in meaningful ways?
“But”, you say.
Your kids are alright. It’s your spouse that’s driving you crazy! You one of many parents who want a divorce without dragging your kids through a bitter custody battle. How the heck will you parent with each other now, you ask?! Then, go directly to Life After Divorce.
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Can you relate?
- You want the best for your kids.
- You’re thinking you’re failing as a parent.
- You’re saddened. Lost.
- You want to remember what great kids you have and see the best in each other again.
- You’re experiencing caregiver burn-out!
- You’re frustrated and angry much of the time and you need help understanding and communicating what you need and want.
- You want to know how to live with the ones you love when they’re angry or sullen.
- You’re thinking about parenting all the time.
- You want to bury your head in the sand and make your parenting problems go away. Maybe they’ll just grow out of it, you say.
- You heard from someone that parent coaching might help.
- You’re being realistic, asking your kids and your partner to do simple things, and you feel like you’re talking to the walls.
- You dread the constant aggravation and bickering over little things, every day.
- You need relief. Peace of mind.
- You want to know when to follow your child’s lead and when to direct.
- You want to make simple, quick, do-able changes in the way that you parent so that you see more honesty, trust, and openness in your home.
- You see yourself as a good parent but worried because you’re yelling more often than you like.
- Are you scared that this couldn’t get any worse?
- Are you experiencing parent guilt trying to reassure yourself that you’re not a bad parent?
- Are you secretly embarrassed that you, YOU need help?
- You want to talk to another parent who understands where you’re coming from.
- Are you afraid that you’re admitting failure by seeking help? You know you need the help and want to be sure that this is going to work for you.
- This feels like a big step for you.
- You doubt cooperation is possible but you’re willing to try.
- You want to try out coaching before committing to anything.
Is never too early or too late. Whether you have young children, teens, or young adults, you can enjoy family relationships where everyone’s needs matter!
SEE FOR YOURSELF!
Listen to two coaching sessions for yourself to see if this is right for you.
Just about every parent can attest to the challenge of being triggered by what our kids or our partners say and do. If being triggered is a struggle for you, you are not alone. Every parent I speak to has a story to share! These are just two.
Pod Cast: Couples Staying Connection through Parenthood
Pod Cast: Triggered by what your kids say and do?
On these Family Matters Radio Pod Casts, through listening and coaching, we focused on exploring the underlying needs that were speaking through the stories, observations, thoughts and feelings that I am so grateful my guests were willing to share with us. Neither of us knew where these conversations were going to lead us. By shedding some light on what’s important to these parents about their situations, they freed up energy and options that had been out of their reach up until then so that their needs and values were supported by concrete options.
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Another story…
This mom turned her relationship with her teen son around by honestly answering questions that only she could answer for herself and that you can answer for yourself now. This is a good place to start. Then, read below to see what to do next.
Struggling teen gets Mom off his back and pulls his grades up!
A mother calls for coaching. She loves her son so much. She’s desperate and heartbroken. Home life is miserable. She can’t remember the last time she and her son had fun together. Every night, they fight about homework. It’s been going on too long! It’s not like she’s being unreasonable. To make matters worse, her son’s teacher says he’s not doing his school work. The teacher is threatening to fail him. Worse, if he doesn’t keep his grades up, he won’t be able to play on the team. Her son scoffs, “I don’t care!” but deep down, Mom knows being kicked off the team will crush him.
Mom isn’t calling about homework. Otherwise, she’d hire a tutor. Instead, she doesn’t want to play ‘bad-cop’ anymore. She’s worried about her relationship with her son. She regrets she’s saying dreadful, hurtful things. She’s triggered every time he rolls his eyes!
What if he shuts her out completely? How does she connect more deeply with her son when he just tunes her out?
Mom answers three questions.
- What do you want in your relationship?
- What’s actually happening? (a) from Mom’s perspective? (b) from Son’s perspective?
- What’s needed to turn this around? What’s in the gap between 1 and 2?
Mom takes what she learned and arranges to talk with her son when they’re both relaxed. Mom and Son openly share what they envision and what’s important to each of them. Coaching helped Mom prepare for this difficult conversation. They learn that they are more alike than different! They agree on a contract. After doing what he said he would do, Son’s grades improve. His self-esteem and confidence soar. Mom and Son are having fun and talking again. Best of all, Son is still on the team and loving it!
Peace and trust begin at home. Everyone’s needs matter. Although we likely won’t fulfill our needs 100% of the time, we can meet them with compassionate curiosity and love most of the time.
When you have someone walking with you, compassionately accepting you, listening for what’s important to you, you can care for your own needs and your children’s, and find compassionate solutions for your family. You know you and your family best. You know what’s not working for you and you need a bit of help to get from where you are now to having family relationships based on trust and openness. Nothing’s more important than your family.
Coaching is conveniently scheduled:
- in the privacy of your own home,
- a comfortable space in the north end of Guelph, or
- over the phone.
Appointments are available evenings and weekends and meet most budgets.
Regular Rates:
- $150/1 session
- $275/2 sessions ($25 savings)
- $400/3 sessions ($50 savings)
- 3 to 6 sessions recommended, payable by cheque, cash, or paypal
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As long as you’re willing to honestly look at where you’re at, create a vision of where you want to be, and take do-able steps to get you from here to there, then coaching is for you!
Have a look around at the other stuff to help you right now:
- Family Matters Radio: conversations about the joys and challenges of family life every Sunday morning from 8 to 9 AM Eastern on CFRU 93. 3 FM.
- Listen to a show about Divorce Without War, Blended Families, or Empathy: Family Matters Radio Pod Casts
- Readan article about what to do when your kids are fighting, Collaborative Divorce, Transforming Fear into Curiosity:
- Sign up for a newsletter that let’s you know when new blogs are posted or a workshop for other moms and dads like you.
- Come back soon because we’re working on short videos for you.
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